Comparing expression when you map different samples to different assemblies is just too hard, so I'd second making a single coassembly. But an alternative approach to assembling all the reads together would be:
1) Assemble the control.
2) Map irradiated sample to control assembly, with fairly loose tolerance for mapping to account for polymorphisms.
3) Assemble unmapped reads.
4) Combine the assemblies and use that as your reference.
That might reduce the number of spurious assembled sequences that are just due to polymorphisms between the samples.