Hi Cameron,
I have tried gridss before (it was still version 1.5.1 back then) and have had some good, mixed experience with it.
We have got some nice results which showed us a possibility of one specific (or two different, we couldn't quite figure out the results) insertion site(s). Do you think I should try the new version (v. 2.2.0) again?
We did exactly what you listed above (merging the genomes, masking the regions in the mouse chromosomes, alignment, SV -> vcf file).
I was thinking the de-novo assembly would give me a more straightforward results. or maybe even using your own tool socrates to look for exactly that.