Ah, I see that is quite simple! So the correct samtools flag be 9 (read paired (0x1) & mate unmapped (0x8))?
Edit: Okay, I think it should be 13 (read paired (0x1) & read unmapped (0x4) & mate unmapped (0x8)) since the read 1 is the "read" and read 2 is the "mate." Also, I want the mates which are unmapped.
Edit 2: If anyone is interested, here is what I used to convert sam output to bam, filter only for pairs where reverse read non-mapped, and converted back to two non-interleaved fastqs in a single command:
samtools view -bS input.sam | samtools view -u -f 13 - | samtools fastq -1 input.norRNA_R1.fastq.gz -2 input.norRNA_R2.fastq.gz -